Are we remaining true to ourselves in the dating process?

 Thinking about that question really hit home because a vast amount of us dumb down ourselves to attract a certain kind of mate. For example I am a very strong willed person and I have hidden that part of me to date certain men come on there are men and woman who expect certain things from their mate and believe me some of it is pure foolishness but yet we want the man or woman who makes six figures and who can give us the world so to speak so we pretended to be what they want usually these types want someone who needs them they like to be the knight in shining armor eye roll but I found that I can't remain happy not being my true authentic self. I feel trapped and caged so to say the least I don't stay in these type relationships for very long. The crazy thing is these men are willing to put a ring on it and they never even knew the real strong opinionated me. I have learned in the last couple of years that I would rather remain single and happy then taken and caged. We say love is a freeing experience but is it really when we have to become what our spouse wants instead of living in a way that leaves us both feeling free and loved because we are ourselves. I have always said if you have to change or hide any part of yourself to be with someone that person is not for YOU!!!!! Your mate should be able to handle every part of who you are and be able to embrace your truths. Stop forcing people to be your type just because you want certain things believe you me God knows what we need and he will send that person to you we just have to stop being so impatient and settling for things that we know we don't really want in a mate just to say we got someone. Stop damaging people knowing full well you are settling and not truly happy in your relationship it's better to walk away them to destroy someone simply because your selfish. 




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Untia B. said…
We reserve the right to be ourselves with the one we love this is what builds lasting relationships no pretense just pure open love.
December 31, 2021 at 7:24 AM
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