In light of all these celebrity break-ups do we truly having staying power in terms of relationships?

 In the news everywhere we are seeing celebrity break-ups that we never seen coming and these are the examples our younger generation and even us are using to  promote healthy loving relationships. Do we as a society no longer believe in fighting for love and relationships anymore or are we becoming a society that has no value in sticking things out when they get hard or undesirable. I was married for twelve years and believe me there were days I was ready to walk away from the relationship but I always remembered my vows and that alone plus the true unconditional love I had for my husband kept me home. My life at one point in my marriage was very difficult but I had to make the conscious decision to work towards the vows I spoke at the alter and put them to work in my relationship it wasn't easy actually it was the hardest thing I ever had to do in my life, do I have some regrets about staying as long as I did absolutely but I never gave up on him or our marriage until his passing in 2014. We have been feed the fairy tale that love should be easy and happiness always present in relationships and marriage that is a crock of crap there will be moments in a relationship where you feel no happiness, only pain, where there will be no joy only sorrow, where you can't even stand the sight of your partner but that is when your vowels come into play a relationship is something you build not just sustain and the moment you stop building is the moment the structure falls to ruin. So, if you don't remember anything else I have written understand that if you are not willing to be selfless and abandon preconceived thoughts and notions of what society has feed us your relationship will not work and you will damage the one you claim to love.



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Untia B. said…
I have never been one to give up in life so in a relationship I will work on it harder to maintain it if I truly love the one I am with. Do we have so little staying power due to the fact we know it's so easy to walk away....Just my thoughts
January 14, 2022 at 8:17 AM
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