Dating is quite a roller coaster ride, who is down for the ride?

 


Whose, with me when it comes to the thought of dating being like a continual roller coaster ride that literally can make you feel sick to your stomach! 



I have dated guys with pure intentions and the scam bags that only want to get in your pants not having the slightest intention of it being more than a friend’s with benefits package. How can we filter out the bad ones and how do we heal ourselves enough to accept the good ones? I have learned that where we think some experiences haven’t left their mark they are truly the ones who have cut us the deepest and we start to see the world through fogged glasses scared to take leaps of faith and standoffish when it comes to opening our heart to real and true love. Can I be real in terms of relationships I see no rush in me getting into one and I know it’s due to some past hurts I have endured even seeing my friends and family getting into relationships and better yet married and getting dogged out. I have tried to be more objective to the thought of settling down but then I close my eyes and I am on that roller coaster again and I pull away. How do we leave the hurt behind and date without biases so we can get the devil off this freaking roller coaster ride? Thoughts anyone, hit me up in the comments. Stay blessed, mind clear and heart open till next time……remember to comment, follow & share.

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Untia B. said…
Do you feel like past relationships can be like a ghost in the present?
December 22, 2021 at 8:50 AM
Ryan.M.B said…
Our lives will always be like a rollercoaster, mountains, hills and valleys. There really isn't a perfect anything. So we have to go through this. I think it what helps shape our lives and the choices we make, how we learn. I like to use me past to help guide my future, helps me make better choice. I certainly don't wanna go back to a girl that just likes to spend my whole check in one day, or a another women that told the cops she thought I was on drugs, or the girl that said if you don't give me what I want I'll tell my daddy (who was a federal agent. Legit) that I tried to have my way with here... Without going through the ups and down I would have made the same mistake again, I know what I want and don't want, I am stronger, wiser more alert. Nobody will ever be you husband, so must take from that and grow, develop new things new interest if needed be, your next journey is out there, when you see it embrace it
December 22, 2021 at 5:41 PM
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