Why do you think the dating game has changed so much let's say in the last 15 years?

 I believe the dating game has changed so drastically because we no longer value the same things as we did fifteen years ago in terms of relationships and marriage. When our parents married they married for love, stability, loyalty and over all happiness. Their dating process looks nothing like today's we hurry though everything and only look at the surface of the person we are dating and some how this is the new norm and we wonder why six months into a marriage we talking about this isn't the same person I courted. But it is we forget that courting is much more than going on outings together, baecations and sharing intimate moments there is much more to the process and we are leaving it undone. I have found that in this generation of dating people don't remain true to themselves in the process so you never know truly what your getting until it's to late so to speak. We have been taught to hide our flaws till after the wedding that is the worst mistake you can ever make because your person didn't fall in love with you but the false catfish version of you and your wondering why all of sudden you guys aren't getting along or they can't tolerate the sight of you because they don't know this version of you that was hidden during the courting phase. I on the other hand sometimes have been told that I am too transparent. I refuse to pretend to be something I'm not to get or keep a man yes, I am head strong, independent, educated, opinionated, sassy and can be down right standoffish due to my introverted nature but I am also, loving, loyal, caring, passionate, patient, kind, understanding and will have your back until the end of time and I believe the man who is meant to be with me will embrace all my qualities and my flaws, this is me and I unapologetically will remain me no matter what. Ladies & gentlemen it is time out for pretending let's be true to ourselves because the fact of the matter is this if they don't like the real you they aren't meant for you count your loses and move on your better half is out there searching for you we have to learn to move in patience we have jumped into relationships and marriage with people that was never meant to be apart of our lives because we lack patience.Let's take our time and make better choices so we are not destroying our lives and others believe me you will be a lot happier in the end! 




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Tyree said…
Amen. Couldn’t have heard better words then this right here and true we forget when we are at the alter the person we are supposed to be fully when making that step. Also in the process is making sure the journey never stops there, it’s so much more to the adventure of love, but ppl nowadays like you said just see the glamour, baecations, and not understanding the real process when it comes to the hard times you need each other or when you have a debate how it’s handled etc. nowadays they see the physical rather then understand the mental and what’s from within shows throughout. Love this
December 23, 2021 at 8:26 AM
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