Are we doing a disservice to ourselves when we settle in relationships?

 What are your thoughts on settling in a relationship? I found that if we are patient in our pursuit for the right partner we will find them. Some say you can't find 100% of what you want in a partner I beg to differ because you can find someone with 100% percent of  the qualities you want it will just be flawed and to me those flaws are what makes me love you more because you are being open and genuine about who you are and your areas that might be unsavory to me this shows me a heck of a lot about your character. The simple fact we are all flawed but it's our flaws that make us unique and that is darn lovable to me. I never want to change my love interest or make them feel as if they have to become someone else to win my love and affection to me that is what settling is trying to pretend to be okay with not having what you want which will later end with you damaging someone who was never meant for you. I love a saying I saw once which said stop damaging other peoples mates by marrying people you know full well you don't really want. If you have to go outside of your relationship for anything you must face the hard facts the one you choose wasn't for you and you messed up, the bigger issue is what are you going to do to fix the mess you made and mend the hurt you caused by choosing poorly? What's your thoughts on this topic leave a commit and follow my blog to stay in the loop!



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Unknown said…
I love that saying - "stop damaging another person's mate by marrying them..." hot!
January 13, 2022 at 11:04 AM
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