Are we putting our happiness and well-being on partners?

 Looking back over the years of marriage and relationships I have been in I have learned some great lessons some good and some I wish never had to be learned but they have all lead up to the point of gaining knowledge that will help me not to make the same mistakes and hopefully help others as well. Growing up as a girl we were taught that our prince charming would come  sweep us off our feet and make us happy beyond our wildest dreams but this quite simply put was a huge fairy tale we have been sucked into and all wanted.  Let's be honest we waited our whole adult lives for the moment we would meet the man of our dreams who had the ability to turn our dreams into reality turn us from a maiden into a wife and granted some of us met men who did just that but were they able to live up to the standard of our perceptions did we burden them down with the weight of our happiness? I see that in some cases I have put to much on the head of the one I say I love making them work harder towards my happiness than I was willing to do myself. I had forgotten about my happiness trying to build a home not realizing that if I myself wasn't happy alone that all the effort I was putting towards his happiness was making me miserable and I started making him miserable because I was becoming with drawn and irritated by his presence because he was not seeing that I wasn't happy just being his wife/girlfriend. A lot of times I have noticed is that we try to become everything to our mate while losing ourselves and that never works we have to have balance and that starts with happiness within. Our partners should never be burden with the weight of our happiness if we are whole and happy before the relationship it will only pull us together stronger our happiness becomes mutual happiness that grows over time.










Love and relationships are confusing sometimes and we will never get it all right there will be moments of unhappiness with our partner but our inner happiness will let us know that this is just a season and the love we fought so desperately to have is worth more than one moment of uncertainty. Let love not just be an emotional blanket in your relationship but let it be your very core because in science we know the core of a thing is what keeps it stable build on the core of your love and watch your relationship grow by leaps and bounds!

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