Looking back at your romantic life would you take the same journey towards love?

 I often ask myself this question looking back through the years at my journey through love and the lessons I have learned. It's not that all my previous experiences with love were bad because they weren't I actually encountered some wonderful men who absolutely adored me it just came down to being the right person at the wrong time and I was unable to open myself up to the love and affection they were trying to bestow on me. And yes, you can definitely be with the right person at the wrong time in your life and it will be utter chaos not because you weren't meant to be but the timing was all wrong and maybe you hadn't dealt with your issues and still had a wall up like me or maybe you were in a time in your life where you weren't looking for a committed relationship and your partner was all in. We have to understand that timing sometimes is everything and if we go ahead of it or miss it all together we can lose out on the very love of our lives. 

    I consider myself to be a very rationale person I always weigh my options and like a very strong and favorable outcome when making any decision and this has hurt my love life because I don't like to take chances so taking leaps of faith are very difficult for me therefore in love I always seem to hit a metaphoric wall once the relationship progresses so far. So, after two marriages one ending in divorce the other in my husband passing away after nearly 12 years of marriage I admit I have a fear of the unknown all due to my journey of love. I think early on I would have changed a lot about who and what I attached myself to and would have waited till I had matured before starting a life long commitment with anyone. When we are young we think we have it all figured out about life, love,family and  relationships when in reality we didn't know much at all and that cocky way of thinking put us in situations and relationships that we should have never been in. 

    So, in my latter years I am learning to take my time not rushing into anything because my emotions are running wild and my body is in need of a little worship if you catch my drift Lol but to really get to know and understand the person I love so, that when issues do arise and they will because no relationship is perfect we understand love is a journey that will help you be able to look past your own discomfort in the situation and work with your partner for a solution. Many times when issues began to show their heads we go inward instead of embracing the one we gave our vows to and this is one of the reasons they say to have that open communication going because if I can not articulate whats disturbing me I bottle it up and instead of dealing with the small issues it begins to feaster in my heart and mind then in turns into mistrust,dissension, hurt and it can ultimately destroy the relationship when it was never a big issue at all. We have got to learn to Communicate open your mouth and speak your heart to your partner they will listen and they will have a new found respect for you and your relationship this is where we keep falling short and tearing up perfectly solvable relationships due to miscommunication. 

    Let's learn something from our journey of love so that we don't stay stuck in cycles of relationships that don't last because we keep breaking our own hearts in the process. Love can be a wonderful experience we just have to be willing to take the ride. So, until next time Love, Light & Blessings!




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