Love vs Connection

 This is a burning question does love equate a true connection or can you have a connection and there be no love? In my case I have had many connections to people due to similar interest, physical attraction and just liking their personality never feeling anything even close to love for them only maybe a mild amount of affection but nothing more. Can I say we throw that word LOVE ❤ around way to freely affection is not love guys!!!! 

    What changes a connection to a love match and I know some will say getting to know them while dating and building a relationship guess what I've done all that and nothing so that is easier said than done. What I found is that spending a great amount of time with individuals that you have a connection with can make you think what you feel for them is love because it's safe and familiar when in fact its nothing more than mutual affection you building a lasting friendship that has nothing to do with romantic interest at all. We wonder why so many marriages are failing because we get caught up with the connection never truly falling in love with the individual we connected ourselves to and we wonder why after awhile we can't even stand the way that individual looks because connection alone can't keep a relationship just as love can not but what I can say is love will help you look past all the difficulties and imperfections in your person to work towards sustaining the relationship connection won't do that and it's funny that a lot of the things we build relationships on were never meant to sustain them long term.

     I have been doing some soul searching really looking at the relationships I have been in say in the last 5 years and yes these men wanted to spend their life with me and I was so close to giving in knowing I didn't truly love any of them but we had what I called a genuine connection similar interest and goals working toward making our dreams come true so in my mind maybe a compromise could be made and I could eventually fall in love but I stopped myself and asked this question would you be happy long term with your choice and would it be fair to him to lock him into a forever commitment knowing your heart isn't in it and the answer was always NO. 

    I am learning that waiting for the real thing sucks because by nature we are inpatient and want things such as love, connection and physical intimacy when we want them meaning that we rush the process which in most cases are not good for us or the individual that we connect ourselves with instead of trusting the process of divine timing. Rushing the process can literally lead to you destroying someones whole life because you made the wrong choice knowing your heart wasn't truly in it and that is the worst spot to be in because you could have just waited and not only saved yourself from heartache but the person that you dragged on a life journey who was never supposed to be with you in the first place. Ponder these things before you jump into something that will be hard to get yourself out of I am just saying. Till next time Love, Light & Blessings! 






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