Are we giving people to many chances in love and relationship?

 Why are we so willing to give the wrong people so many chances to hurt and abuse us knowing that they don't value or really appreciate the love and grace that we are giving them. I found that when we don't really know our own self worth we are willing to accept love for hurt, betrayal instead of loyalty, lies instead of truth and disappointment instead of happiness. It's crazy how own our demons if not dealt with can affect our lives in more ways than we know. 

    Can I tell you that we can attract those who can sense our self doubt and our lack of love for ourselves and they attach themselves to us like leeches spiritual parasites and suck us dry of the very life force that we have left leaving us depleted, unsure of our selves even more than we already are and making us slaves to their bad behavior. We become a narcissist's dream they can feel us out and we never see them coming and it's so very hard to detach from these individuals.

  

 I know I can talk by experience I have stuck it out in some really bad relationships thinking that if I loved them more gave more of myself that they would change and can I tell you that never works the only time a person can truly change is if and when they do it for themselves so don't believe that nonsense where they say a man will change for the woman he loves that is a lie that man will alter himself enough to fool you into thinking he has changed so that you will accept him and revert right back to himself after he seals the deal. 

    WAKE up people don't change for other people successfully because a man or woman is who they are 100% of the time. We have to understand if a man or woman must change themselves to be with you ultimately their not for you. For a relationship to be successful both parties have to be able to be open and honest about who they are if any party has to hide any part of who they are from their partner that relationship is not meant to be. One of the key elements of a successful relationship is intimacy I am not talking about sex and yes that definitely is a huge part of a successful relationship but I am talking about the part of intimacy where I can be exactly who I am with you no judgement just love and understanding the part where I tell you my ugly truths and because you know that I am your person you look at me and love me through them. 

    This is the part of relationships most couples never develop because we are always pushing for our partners to change who they are for us instead of dealing with the authentic individual in which we claim we fell in love with. How can I have a successful relationship or marriage with someone who is hiding a part of themselves from me you can't because we must all understand that it will eventually come to the light. Let's stop fooling ourselves into believing that love is a reason to be a prisoner to one another I don't believe that divorce is always the answer but we are getting to old to be living unhappy lives with people that we know aren't our person. Why destroy someone when you can simply wish them the best and both move on and be successful in love elsewhere.

I know a lot of couples who are together out of obligation and that is a horrible reason to stay in a marriage or relationship because in those instances bitterness grows daily and when it finally comes to a end it will be disastrous for both parties. If you have financial, property and business related obligations there are ways in which you can split amicably and still remain partners. So, let's stop using that as an excuse to stay in unhealthy unions and do what's right for yourself and your long term happiness. Until next time Love, Light & Blessings!