Let's talk about issues that can literally shake a relationship to it's core!

 Being in a relationship and or marriage is hard enough as it is so we never want some issues to arise because it can literally be the end of the union. Money issues is one of the biggest issues couples face especially early on in a marriage. This is due partly to the fact that even if you have discussed financial issues and situations it hits differently when it actually arises and a financial pitfall is present. My husband and I were married around five years when he was physically disabled and unable to work at all and all the financial responsibility fell on me this was a very difficult situation because we had five children at home to provide for and never in a million years would I think that I would be working two full time jobs and a part-time job to keep our family afloat all why maintaining the other duties required of me at home. We all know we take those good vows on our wedding day that says for richer or poorer in sickness and in health but you don't know how hard that becomes when the rubber meets the road so to speak and after awhile you start to resent them. Yes, we talked about financial issues before marriage and even had money saved up but that only lasted awhile I am saying this to say that the #1 reason for divorce today is financially based we have to do better in securing our financial future as couples so we are prepared for those issues if they may come.

Lost of connection and intimacy is another big problem in relationships and marriages because we become to familiar with one another and stop getting to know the person we are in union with can I tell you something people are ever changing and evolving that's how partners can say after two or three years that you aren't the same person I married because they aren't. We must realize the same effort it took to get the one you love will be needed all the way throughout the marriage because the moment you get to comfortable and complacent the one you love just might out grow you. One way to keep that momentum going everyday ask your partner how their day was and let them expound on it and they do the same for you. Take interest in the things they love and in projects that they may be working on outside of the home such business, career and education.

Make sure to keep date nights going no matter how busy you get there should always be time for your partner. Make them a priority sometimes drop everything your doing and focus on them and their pleasures and I promise you the heat in your bedroom will be uncontainable a night of passion and unwavering desire. It's okay to go all out sexually with your partner explore different positions and toys spice it up play dress up and role play believe me a little imagination goes a long way and your partner will thank you for it later. 

Trust and cheating is another big issue in marriage and relationships these days not saying it wasn't a big issue before but the game has changed since social media has come on board it's a lot easier to connect with people without your spouse or partner finding out. Let's be honest some of the trust issues that arise in relationships has nothing to do with cheating and everything to do with lack of consistency as humans we become suspicious when things seem off for example say you use to kiss me good morning every morning and now it seems that your too busy to remember now days, you use to call me every afternoon at 4 pm and now I don't get a call these types of little things that some of us don't see a problem or issue with builds seeds of mistrust. These seeds of mistrust can lead to cheating because your partner feels that you are disinterested and they become disconnected then all they need is a little nudge by an outside source and what could have been prevented by simple communication has turned ugly. I DO NOT condone cheating of any type I believe as adults if you feel the relationship or marriage is not working you should walk away and never destroy your partner by cheating because it is humiliating, hurtful, destroys ones self-esteem and some people never recover from the damage done to them by that act of selfishness. Can a marriage or relationship survive cheating yes, but it takes years of work to heal the mistrust, hurt and damage done and most of the time it never goes back to how it was in the beginning. Sometimes we must realize when it is just time to walk away and let them find happiness else where and you do the same. Before it ever gets to the point when you want to step out on your partner step up and make the hard decision to either walk away from the temptation or the relationship. 

These are just some of the major issues that arise in relationships stay tuned for a more in depth look at what building a solid relationship in this new found era of love looks like and how to keep it popping! Until next time Love, Light & Blessings!!!