With the changing of times has the expectations that women are judged by changing?

 In light of all the attention Lori Harvey is getting can we say that young women are still being held under wild expectations in terms of relationship goals? I don't agree with how we set such an unrealistic expectations for young women but not our young gentlemen. Lori Harvey is still quite young and the old notion where if you weren't married by twenty-five you are considered an old maid is outdated and just unrealistic in this day and age. I believe that if Ms. Harvey voiced early on in the relationship that she wasn't looking for marriage and to settle down than she was right to walk away from a man who wanted all the things she didn't. If you look at Ms. Harvey's track record you can see she clearly dates men who have problems committing in relationships which means she has a type ones who she feels are looking for the same thing a little fun and companionship nothing more.

    What I believe may have happened and this of course is all speculation for none of us really know the private details of the relationship or the split is that Mr. Jordan fell in love with Ms. Harvey and didn't see all the red flags that were present this isn't his fault love can blind us to the very reality in which we live and later becomes our very heartbreak and demise. He was so busy doing all the things our parents teach us to woo a woman that he didn't understand that it meant nothing to her because all men that she dates do all those things she sees them as apart of the dating process while he saw it as a way to woo her and show her how much he loved her. 

    We must really get to know the people we are dating and giving our feelings to because you may be falling in love while they are just using you for a good time and when that reality sinks in it's quite devastating to say the least. We are putting to much into empty relationships because we fail to learn the person we are entering into these relationships with. If a person is not ready to commit I don't care what you do it will not change the fact that they are not ready. I commend Ms. Harvey in walking away instead of saying yes marrying Mr. Jordan and they both end up miserable thinking that if I marry this person my wants and needs will change it won't believe me and it always ends in disaster.

So, let's give Ms. Harvey a little credit here she was mature enough to say you aren't meant for me because our life goals at this moment don't line up and I don't want to keep you from finding the love you need and that takes guts because I know that Ms. Harvey did in fact have feelings for Mr. Jordan you could see it they just had clearly different life paths and that is okay.

Let's learn a great lesson here that love doesn't always equate marriage and long term relationships because at the end of the day if we clearly don't want the same things and are life paths are different it ain't going to work no matter how hard you try and force it. Be patient and wait for the person designed for you and stop connecting yourself to other peoples mates this only brings destruction to you both this is just my two cents. So, until next time Love, Light & Blessings!!