I'd rather wait long than marry wrong, so let us stop loving the wrong person to long!

 In many cases we don't even know we are loving the wrong person because our ego and emotions can distort the reality of things so much so that we fail to see the damage we are doing not only to ourselves but to the individuals we claim to love. I have been found in this situation quite a few times and I have found that my loyalty to people is one of my biggest problems I have because if I love you or care for you deeply I never want to be the person that just walks away or causes harm so I will ride that thing out till the wheels fall off and what I have found out is that this is not always the answer we have to learn when it's time to move on before we cause more harm than good not only to ourselves but to others. 


    Love is a very tricky emotion and a lot of times we base it off of words never looking into the actions behind those words. I can say I love you a thousand times but if I can't ever put those words into action in the form of just being able to  stand by you in the roughest moments of your life or when you need a shoulder to cry on, or during a big decision I can't listen and be your cheerleader can I really say that I love you because even good friends can do just that and there is no romantic love present. 

    Sometimes in our willingness not to be alone we except things that aren't beneficial to us at all, I have seen tons of my friends as well as myself stay in toxic and unloving relationships just to say they have a boyfriend/girlfriend & wife/husband and are miserable thinking that everyone around them can't see how unhappy they are but it's ever present you can fool yourself but not others actually we see right through the picture perfect image you present and it's sad. 


    My question is this why as adults in this day and age do we short change ourselves staying in relationships that are sucking us dry and that adds nothing to us except a title. Have we lost so much of our self-worth that we are willing to put up with anything just to have the illusion of toxic love? I ask myself this question all the time I am a nearly 45 year old single woman and I hear all the time you aren't getting any younger and you definitely ain't going to look the way you do forever and men will not always be so willing to pursue you as you get older and more set in your ways these statements make you think do I just settle so I can have a man or do I wait for what I want and know I deserve? 

     I just feel like we are to old to be settling for anything other than what we want because this is the rest of our adult life we are considering sharing with another individual shouldn't we be absolutely sure about that kind of life altering commitment/decision because it won't just affect us but the person we say yes to and that is why I am not willing to rush into anything. The statement I would rather wait long than marry wrong always rings true in my ears because forever is a long behind time to be miserable I'm just saying. So, until next time Love, Light & Blessings!

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