Is any relationship worth your peace?

 I have been asking myself this one deep question is any relationship worth my peace. You might ask in terms of what because self peace covers a many issues and things not just in relationships but in life. I have found that in many instances I am a generally peaceful individual I don't do drama or even take on stress because long ago I developed the mentality to let go let flow and it has changed my life. 

    Granted I was not always that way the death of my husband in 2014 really opened my eyes to how much stress and unchangeable issues that I carried daily on my shoulders and it was literally sucking the life straight out of me and of course I didn't see it. The crazy thing is that a lot of times when we are going through certain things or situations  we fail to even realize how much they impact who we are and even what we look like. Stress is a silent killer that will have you having strokes, heart attacks ,high blood pressure and even age you as well. I look at pictures from 10 years ago I look way older back then it almost seems that since I let all that stuff go that I'm aging in reverse. 


I had to sit back and really evaluate all the different things that were bringing stress and even unrest to my life such as family, friends, work and romantic relationships. Then came the hard part weighing how much I really needed these components in my life and whither these components were healthy, destructive or actually really needed. A lot of times we keep things that aren't healthy for our well-being because they are what we know and we even deem them safe whole time they are destroying our health not just our body but our minds.  

We have to learn to free ourselves from things that no longer serve us or our purpose in life. Can you believe some people are sent to derail the purpose in our life and  fill it with so much toxicity that we can't focus on nothing else but the issues they have created and we start to become the person they said we were forgetting the greatness that was breed in us during the beginning of time. That's why these narcissistic partners attach on to us they see in us what we can't and their assignment is to destroy it before it ever takes manifest. 


Can I tell you once you let go of all that toxic stuff you will found it so hard to even deal with others toxicity. Because the price of your peace will become so high that you will start to value it and protect it. This is the moment where we start to heal ourselves and become whole again. The process may be difficult but the outcome is amazing.....until next time Love, Light & Blessings!

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