Love Actually

 What is the meaning of love in terms of relationships? Defined it means an intense, deep affection for another person. How important is love or being in love in a marriage & or relationship? I asked these questions because I have talked to different couples, married folks and singles the answers they gave were very divided. I was always raised that love should be the driving factor to any relationship especially marriage but many young folks don't believe that love holds much stalk in the actual nuptials they take. Crazy huh?


Why marry someone your not in love with that love is the thing that will keep you from stepping out. I have talked to many a different individual who have cheated and almost all of them said that they were never in love with their spouse but they do love them. What???? Well, because love is a action word you have to work at it for it to be relevant so a lot of times what we call love isn't love at all it is simply having some compatibility and or lust for an individual which brings about a connection point blank. So, when that couple begins to grow as individuals the compatibility changes and the connection is lost but yet you married each other thinking that the connection was love when it was only compatibility. This is where you find that cheating, hostility, resentment & separation starts to take root because the foundation of your relationship was built on mere compatibility not love.

I personally will never marry someone I am not in love with I've done it before and I watched how even though I treated them well done my part as a wife they felt the disconnect and it ultimately helped destroy my marriage. One way to gauge if you really love your mate is if the very thought of hurting them hurts you. Your spouse should be so connected to you that when they hurt you hurt, when they feel joy you feel joy remember your vows the two become one I give up my selfish nature in order to love someone completely without pretense and or material gain my very soul longs to be near that someone and any disconnect and or separation causes physical pain. 

We know that marriage needs much more than just love to be successful but love should be the driving force for all romantic unions in order for it to be God endorsed for our God is love. So, before you attach yourself to another human being make sure that what you feel goes beyond your selfish nature and is felt not only in your heart but deep within your soul for that's how you will know it's true love! Until next time love, light & blessings! 

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