Spring Cleaning :Time to let the Baggage Go!

 Well it's that time of year where we start to do some serious Spring cleaning not only in our homes but in our lives as a whole. I found that letting go of things can be rather difficult whither it be material or emotional if we deem any type of value in it. 


    How do we define what is still useful and what needs to go? One way would be that it still holds value in terms of usage if it's a household item, article of clothing and or  piece of equipment. But how do we define what has value in terms of emotional connections/baggage and if we should let it go? 

Can I tell you that emotional baggage is the number one killer of new and budding relationships. Ask me how I know been there done that and that baggage had me literally judging my new partner unfairly because I refused to let go of the distrust, hurt, feelings of being unwanted, jealousy, pain and utter dysfunction that had taken place in the previous relationship.

We say that we have let these issues go until our partner does something that may mimic the behavior of our old partner than all that emotional baggage that we hadn't let go starts to flood back in literally corrupting  your view of your partner......tell me I'm lying? Stop it you know I am telling the 100% truth. 


Here is an example: Phillip use to lie about crazy crap in your last relationship and was even caught cheating you guys have since broke-up you where single for awhile doing some soul searching getting to know yourself again before dating and out of nowhere you meet Victor. Victor is totally different from Phillip he's honest, trustworthy and faithful but one day you ask him about a message you seen on his phone which you technically shouldn't have been looking at anyway and he doesn't give you the directest of answers. 

In that moment all that unhealed baggage connects itself to you and you look at Victor with the same eyes of distrust that you had for Phillip because it seems as if Victor was being dishonest when maybe he couldn't answer it because he ignored the message all together because he loves and cares for you. Simple rational communication could have fixed this issue but instead you start feeling the same feeling you had with Phillip now you fussing, cussing & arguing about dumb issues that don't have any relevance in your new relationship. 

How do you know when you have truly let that emotional baggage go? You will know it is gone because it no longer has an emotional effect  or trigger on issues unrelated to that previous experience.

So, as we are Spring cleaning let us let go of what no longer services us and embrace the beauty of the newness that is before us until next time Love, Light, & Blessings!


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