Love After 40

  Into the eyes I love When I look into the eyes I love I see hopes and dreams fulfilled, I see majesty and grace with flickers of sunshine that brighten my day. When I look into the eyes I love I see perfection in their flaws beauty in their light and strength in their wisdom. When I look into the eyes I love I see patience and fight a will stronger than the literal force of light for in those eyes are sometimes pain, anguish and disappointment but yet they shine bright, around their edges are lines from happiness and joy for in those eyes you can actually read a story for the depth of the soul they are connected to is pure and bright. It shines like an eternal light so when I look into the eyes I love I smile for the person they are connected to is me and that’s no lie for the eyes that I love God gave them to no other but me!  Written by: Untia B. How Deep is our Love In retrospect our love is as vast as an ocean but the depths cannot be measured for the emotions that I...

 Every year we hope to spend the day in which we celebrate love, union and relationships with that special someone who makes our hearts flutter, and gives us butterflies in our stomach but isn't love supposed to be an everyday thing in a relationship like it's supposed to be shown 365 days a year so why on this particular day do we feel so pressed to go above and beyond??? I'll tell you what I think it is we have become so accustom to what society has told us is the way of doing things that we forget that we are simply just boosting the economy on that day because most people spend an arm and a leg on valentine's day and hate each other the other 364 days of the year and that is simply sad. I bet you money you will see a hundred or more engagements and thousands more marriages posted on social media on that day whose love interest are still dealing with them and someone else or wasn't sure if they really even wanted to go through with it but their partner pressured ...

 I would say it's a hard no for me. Even though we all have our own thoughts of what we believe love is and what it looks like to us we have to understand the factors that have built these certain preconceived notations and if we are willing to give up what we believe in order to gain love. Here are some of the contributing factors such as religion, upbringing, society and culture. Can it be in our best interest to choose differently from what we are use to and could that possibly end up being the love of our life? I generally have a type but in the last couple of years I have tried to be more open minded in terms of the men I date hoping to find my forever partner without having a bias in place. I can't lie it's hard to date men you aren't generally attracted to and it takes a lot of patience during the dating process and changing your state of mind to not compare them to men you are use to dealing with. I am a really strong black woman and I have been told I am rather...

 Looking back over the years of marriage and relationships I have been in I have learned some great lessons some good and some I wish never had to be learned but they have all lead up to the point of gaining knowledge that will help me not to make the same mistakes and hopefully help others as well. Growing up as a girl we were taught that our prince charming would come  sweep us off our feet and make us happy beyond our wildest dreams but this quite simply put was a huge fairy tale we have been sucked into and all wanted.  Let's be honest we waited our whole adult lives for the moment we would meet the man of our dreams who had the ability to turn our dreams into reality turn us from a maiden into a wife and granted some of us met men who did just that but were they able to live up to the standard of our perceptions did we burden them down with the weight of our happiness? I see that in some cases I have put to much on the head of the one I say I love making them work ha...

  We say we love yet we never think if the one we love is the one we should be loving and if our love for them is a hindrance or a blessing. Does that person make your life better tell you the hard truths and do it in a way that makes you want to change those things about yourself yet they never require it from you because they love the very essence of who you are and wouldn't want you any other way. Are they the reason that the season you are in hasn't changed for the better keeping you in a process in which our creator is calling for you to move past because they aren't supposed to be a part of your winning season. Sometimes the ones we pick God never wanted them to be more than a lesson and we move ahead of God and make them permanent therefore hindering the plan of God in our life. Can you believe that the one we choose as a life partner can keep us in a cycle of poverty and living from paycheck to paycheck only ever going so far because their life path was not ever ord...

 Do you think in today's society we are more prone to fall in love with the promise of love rather than look for the real thing? I have seen so many people say they are in love and that they love someone but when that relationship or marriage is tested it falls apart. So, can you really say that you loved that person or where you just in love with the promise of love you gave one another. Love is an emotion that runs deeper than you know when it is genuine there is nothing that can  sway that love when it's unconditional . I found that today we love based on works or benefits  nothing more so when those things are challenged or maybe even vanish we no longer love the one we claimed had our heart. We have become parasites always feeding off of or leeching off our partners never realizing the damage we have caused by loving for resources or pretending to love someone to fill the void of loneliness. Do you know how many times I could have been in committed relationship with ...

 In the news everywhere we are seeing celebrity break-ups that we never seen coming and these are the examples our younger generation and even us are using to  promote healthy loving relationships. Do we as a society no longer believe in fighting for love and relationships anymore or are we becoming a society that has no value in sticking things out when they get hard or undesirable. I was married for twelve years and believe me there were days I was ready to walk away from the relationship but I always remembered my vows and that alone plus the true unconditional love I had for my husband kept me home. My life at one point in my marriage was very difficult but I had to make the conscious decision to work towards the vows I spoke at the alter and put them to work in my relationship it wasn't easy actually it was the hardest thing I ever had to do in my life, do I have some regrets about staying as long as I did absolutely but I never gave up on him or our marriage until his pa...